My Husband Wanted to Date Other People\u2014Now He Regrets It<\/p>\n
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Relationships grow, shift, and occasionally fracture under the strain of unexpressed fears and unfulfilled needs. As open marriages and nontraditional relationship styles become more widely acknowledged, many who venture into them may not fully grasp what they\u2019re committing to \u2014 or the emotional impact that can follow. One woman unexpectedly became entangled in a love triangle she hadn\u2019t intended to form\u2026 and the aftermath forced her to reevaluate everything she thought she knew.<\/p>\n
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\u201cI said \u2019yes\u2019 because I loved him.\u201d<\/p>\n
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When my husband first brought up the idea of an open marriage, it felt like the floor dropped out from under me. It wasn\u2019t a conversation, it was an ultimatum. Open marriage or divorce.<\/p>\n
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I loved him. I still do. So I said yes.<\/p>\n
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An unexpected twist of fate<\/p>\n
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For the first few months, I barely dipped my toes into the dating pool. But eventually, I met someone. And not just anyone \u2014 Ben, my husband\u2019s best friend.<\/p>\n
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Six months later, we started dating. At first, it felt harmless. Ben was charming, attentive, and familiar in the way that only someone who already knows your family can be.<\/p>\n
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We went out a few times. We kissed. My husband resented it but stayed silent.<\/p>\n
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But somewhere along the way, it stopped feeling like an experiment and started feeling like a connection. What I didn\u2019t expect was for Ben to come over one evening and drop a bomb I wasn\u2019t ready for. A confession and its aftermath<\/p>\n
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Last week, Ben sat in our living room \u2014 the same room where he\u2019d celebrated holidays and birthdays with us \u2014 and said the words that shattered the illusion of control, \u201cI\u2019ve always been in love with you.<\/p>\n
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Even before any of this.\u201d<\/p>\n
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I watched the color drain from my husband\u2019s face. He was silent at first, but the silence didn\u2019t last. He stood up, furious.<\/p>\n
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Accusing Ben of betrayal, waiting, taking advantage of the situation. I didn\u2019t know what to say. I hadn\u2019t known.<\/p>\n
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Now he wants me back but can we ever go back? Later that night, my husband finally broke down. He admitted he had made a mistake, that he never really thought I would find someone else \u2014 especially not someone so close.<\/p>\n
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He said he was scared of losing me for good. He wants to work things out. He says we can go back.<\/p>\n
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Close the marriage. Heal and try again. But can we?<\/p>\n
I\u2019m torn between loyalty and my feelings. I never wanted to hurt anyone. Not my husband, not Ben.<\/p>\n
I followed my heart the best way I knew how in a situation I never asked for. But now I\u2019m left holding the pieces of two relationships \u2014 and I\u2019m unsure which one, if any, can be put back together.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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